Anyone who has have ever been on the receiving end of getting help while they were sick, know’s how awesome it is to see friends, family members, step in and take their time to pour out love in such a tangible, selfless way. It’s such an incredible blessing. On the flip side of that, it is even more wonderful to be the giver of the help, food, love, to a friend in need.
What are some ways to help a sick friend?
- Make meals, and/or create a meal signup for others to do the same.
- Send a card, or flowers.
- Offer to help run kids around to activities.
- Offer to babysit.
- Be a shoulder to cry on.
- Offer to clean their house, and do laundry or hire a cleaning company for a visit or two.
- Pray, and let her know you are praying.
Food is probably the most practical way to step in and show a friend who is sick, that you care. Meals become a complete burden when mom isn’t well, especially if it’s a chronic problem, or longer lasting then a several day long bug. You can bring over a meal or two, and also setup a meal plan with others using sites like http://www.takethemameal.com. This is especially helpful after the loss of a loved one, birth of a child, or when someone is very ill.
Send your mom-friend flowers and a card. For most of us, getting flowers is a very uncommon thing. It may only happen once a year on Mother’s Day or Valentine’s Day. Getting a beautiful bouquet of flowers with a card that you are thinking about her, praying for her, means a great deal to a woman who is suffering. Touching sentiments like that are things you won’t soon forget.
Unfortunately mom’s don’t really get sick days. Kids still have to go to school, go to doctor appointments, activities, etc. Offering to drive them to their activities, is extremely helpful to a sick mom. You can even offer to keep them afterwards for a few hours so she can rest.
I don’t know anyone who doesn’t love a hot cup of coffee or tea. Coming over to be a shoulder to cry on, and bringing a Starbucks, is straight up mom love language. Being a good friend means sometimes just being there. Just sit there, let her vent about how bad she feels, how hopeless she feels, how tired she is. Chronic illnesses take a toll on your mental health. If you have been through a hard time yourself, you can certainly offer advice, empathy, sympathy and a host of other ideas on how to overcome the mind games we can play with ourselves, when we feel like nothing will ever change.
Cleaning is usually the first thing to go, when mom is sick. Offer to clean her house, insist on it! Because us mom’s like to try to do it all ourselves and we usually don’t even hesitate to turn down help. But tell her you don’t mind, that you want to help, and ask her when would be a good day. If you can’t do it yourself, then if you can afford to do so, offer to hire a cleaning lady to come in once, or twice to help her get her house back to normal (or better than normal).
Someone once said, prayer isn’t the least we can do, it’s the most we can do. Tell her you are praying for her, and actually do it! It’s so easy and getting cliche at times to say, “I’m praying for you”. Do you really mean it? Will you actually pray? The sweetest texts I’ve ever received came from friends who said I was praying for you tonight, how are you? Ask God to take this burden from her, to heal her and give her the grace to get through what she is going through.